Answering Reader Questions

Mistress and slave learned yesterday morning that a family event we were obligated to attend on Sunday afternoon was cancelled. And while we weren't celebrating the cancellation, we were fully prepared to take advantage of the sudden open spot on our calendar. The decision was quickly made to adjourn our little junket to Chicago to a quaint little lake front lodge we enjoy on the opposite side of  the Windy City's lakefront.  The fact that the Innkeeper is still offering a "2 for 1" night off-season rate made sticking around until Sunday all the more attractive.

So rather than the posh king sized bed and lake view we enjoyed on Wednesday and Thursday nights, we are now hunkered down in a more rustic but equally cozy king sized bed with a forest view. We arrived in time for a long walk on the deserted beach, some dinner at a local ethnic restaurant, and, of course, a couple of rounds of worship for Mistress. T he sound of the Lake surf and a pop up rain storm gently soothed us to sleep last night.

We plan some bike riding and reading and a very restful day today....and at least two rounds of sex!

But today's edition is not simply a travelogue. Our reader Lapsed Catholic (Author of the "Lapsed Catholic Wife" blog had some questions I wanted to answer:

"Do you wear a chastity device to work? What is the longest time you have been denied sex as well? I am curious. I want my husband to worship me."


LC, thanks for the question, and your interest in the blog. I checked out your blog which I have listed on our UCTMW "blog role". It sounds like you've been making good use of your Ashley Madison subscription. Mistress met some interesting folks using AM a few years back - she encountered some losers and a handful of  keepers, including her current side dish Jay.

In response to your question, I do wear my chastity cage to work on occasion, based on Mistress's desires, though not as often as some  heckling readers (like Terri) would prefer. Mistress cuts me a lot of slack, and allows me to "hang loose" when I ride my bike, or have business appointments where a metal detector might come into play. More typically, she makes me wear the cage if she is seeing another lover, or if I am going to a social occasion solo which might involve potentially attractive members of the opposite sex.

Since she likes to have her cock available on command, she does not make me wear the cage when we are together, such as while we are on this current "business" trip. An exception might be when we go to dinner with one of her lovers, or one of them visits the house, and my own appendage is not her primary source of pleasure for the evening.

How long have I gone with sustained abstinence?  This is another sore point with some of our readers. I can't think of any situations on the recent past when more than 2-3 days have gone by without a good cum. Though Mistress and I travel solo on occasion, business trips are short. If we are away longer then Mistress usually lifts her "no touch" rule and requires me to engage in a little "self abuse". Her philosophy seems to be that she does not want a horny slave on the loose without her direct supervision.

In terms of how to arrange for your husband to worship you, I can't be of much help. We all come to these arrangements in our own circuitous ways. Every marriage is a mystery to outsiders, and more often than not to insiders. Maybe our readers have some clues they can share?

I tend to think that the carrot and stick method works best, but I don't know what makes your husband tick.

Hope you continue to enjoy the blog. I've enjoyed reading about your exploits, including your culinary exploits whilst enjoying the company of your lovers. One question: is your husband aware of your escapades, or so far are they a secret? If a secret, you never know whether he might got off on the whole "cuckold" thrill. Not many of us do, but it can be a very potent accellerant for your domestic sex life.