Here at the UCTMW World HQ, Mistress and slave
enjoyed a low key Sunday, catching up on some work, and spending a lot of time
in bed. Mistress even let me take another photo of her in her new V-Day panties
to share in response to widespread reader demand (Well at least one of you
asked for more!)
Meanwhile, in the mainstream media, where
sharing shots of your wife’s firm and hot ass are not quite as prevalent, the
world is still focused on the premier of “50 Shades”, with coverage from all
sorts of angles. One I noticed was an article posted on Psychology Today titled The Surprising Psychology of BDSM. It concluded that only about 2% of us
engage in bondage or physical discipline in real life, but that more than a
majority of us dabble in domination or submission in our fantasy lives:
1. How many people are into
S&M?
According to researchers, the
number likely falls somewhere between 2 percent and 62 percent. That’s right:
Somewhere between 2 percent and 62 percent. A pollster who published numbers
like that would be looking for a new job. But when you’re asking people about
their sex habits, the wording of the question makes all the difference.
On the low end, Juliet Richters
and colleagues (2008) asked a large sample of Australians whether they had “been
involved in B&D or S&M” in the past 12 months. Only 1.3 percent of
women and 2.2 percent of men said yes.
On the high end, Christian Joyal
and colleagues (2015) asked over 1,500 women and men about their sexual fantasies. 64.6
percent of women and 53.3 percent of men reported fantasies about being
dominated sexually—and 46.7 percent of women and 59.6 percent of men reported
fantasies about dominating someone sexually.
So while most of you out there reserve domination and submission to hot
masturbatory otherwise undisclosed
fantasies, it’s not something particularly unusual. And while the M/f style of submission may be slightly more
prevalent, the research shows that more than 40% of women harbor a secret
longing for some hapless male to grovel at their feet or be chained to their
bed to serve their carnal needs.
Does this mean that more of us are fucked up than we’d like to admit. Not
at all, dear readers. The research
also shows that habitual BDSM’ers are better adjusted psychologically than your
average vanilla guy or lady:
Pamela Connolly (2006) compared
BDSM practitioners to published norms on 10 psychological disorders. Compared
to the normative samples, BDSM practitioners had lower levels of depression,
anxiety, post-traumatic
stress disorder (PTSD), psychological sadism, psychological
masochism, borderline pathology, and paranoia. (They showed
equal levels of obsessive-compulsive
disorder and higher levels of dissociation and narcissism.)
Similarly, Andreas Wismeijer and Marcel van Assen
(2013) compared BDSM practitioners to non-BDSM-practitioners on major personality
traits. Their results showed that in comparison to non-practitioners, BDSM
practitioners exhibited higher levels of extraversion, conscientiousness,
openness to experience, and subjective well-being. Practitioners also showed
lower levels of neuroticism
and rejection sensitivity. The one negative trait that emerged? BDSM
practitioners showed lower levels of agreeableness than non-practitioners.
So maybe we’re not all that “agreeable”…. Less likely to just
go along with the flow? But isn’t that better than being depressed, paranoid or
anxious?
There are trade-offs, even for those of us who’d rather lick
our devoted wives’ feet than go to a baseball game with the guys.
