We talked to him earlier this week and Mistress conceded that some sparks may have flown. Experience tells us to remain skeptical. Yet open to the potential.
As a prelude to a meeting, this gentleman asked Mistress to complete a "BDSM checklist" to get a sense of her interests and limits. "I want Mick to complete one too", he added in an email to her which linked the questionnaire.
Initially, Mistress found the questionnaire a little daunting.
"It's pretty detailed slave, it could take me an hour or more!"
I printed the form out and reviewed it. Yes, pretty detailed. Respondent is required to identify experience and preferences in response to myriad categories of conduct and equipment, with responses ranging from "hard limit", "curious, "likes" to "Love".
But slave, always dutiful, offered to help her complete the "checklist", running through the many options to gage her reaction and help her complete her "assignment".
It starts with "Role Identified", ranging from "Submissive, Dominant" to "Switch, Fetishist".
"Well I may be Domme to you slave, but I guess for this purpose, say "submissive".
After all that's what this little adventure is all about.
Some of the "sex" categories were easy to answer.
"Vaginal"... "advanced "experience and "loves" was the natural response.
But "anal"? She identified as a "beginner" and only "tolerates". Not quire a "hard limit", but close.
"Rimming /anal licking"? Ick. That was a "hard limit".
What about "Sexual Body Fluids / wearing"?
"Huh....What's that slave?"
"I think some guys like cuming on a woman's breast, Mistress...."
"I'm not Monica Lewinsky", she huffed.
I put that down as a "hard limit" too.
When it came to various forms of "threesomes", Mistress was down as "curious/like", but was a "hard limit" when it came to "gang bang". Apparently three (maybe 4) is the limit.
In the bondage categories, Mistress was open to all the means of restraint, from full body, to rope, metal, leather, or "mental", whatever that is. But not for more than 1 hour at a time. None of that overnight stuff for her. All this talk about Mistress in bondage made me dip back into the archives for this illustration. I think those cuffs are still around here somewhere.
Mistress enlightened me to a few things she was open too: Forced Orgasms. Forced Masturbation. Collar and Leash. Orgasm control/ denial. Discrete Public Play. Genital Worship. "Struggling/Resistance"
All those got put down as "Curious" or "like", clearly opening some doors. But no "hypnosis", or "body weight control".
"I can take care of that myself, slave."
Mistress was not into the "role play" category. Other than for cuckolding scenarios.
So there were "hard limits" to things like "Kidnapping", "Doctor/Nurse/Patient" or "Boss/Secretary".
"What's the point of make believe, slave?"
Likewise, Mistress was not into most varieties of "S&M". Yes to spanking, but hard limits for creepier stuff like "face slapping", "genital torture" or "choking", let alone "water torture". I wonder if Dick Cheney played a role in designing this "checklist".
When it came to equipment, Mistress was a "curious" or "like" to things like crops and floggers, but a "hard limit" to "clubs" or genital weights. And a very hard limit to "hooks", whether of the vaginal or anal variety.
"Creepy, slave. Very creepy."
We will be sending Mistress's responses to her potential Dom by snail mail on Monday.
"Don't forget slave....he wants you to fill one out too."
Hmmm. I guess I will just follow orders, like a good slave.
