Those of you with a scientific bent, might be interested in
an article I stumbled on yesterday in the Washington Post (Lust, Monkeys and the Science of Human desire), which provides some
validation for the Domme / sub lifestyle that is a theme that we write about
here at UCTMW. Is it really so unusual? Or is a female led sexual dynamic more
typical than conventional thinking might persuade us?
The article focuses on a researcher who has studied the
behaviors of rhesus monkeys – the type we used to launch into space because of
their proximity to humankind. It turns out that that male scientists who
concluded years ago that in the primate world males were the sexual aggressors
were not watching closely enough.
Instead, it was the ladies who ruled the roost, and they
weren’t just satisfied with one “provider”:
There, in Asian mountains or lowland forests, adult males lurked at the
edges of female-run domains. The females invited them in to serve sexually. The
males remained — desirable, dispensable — until the females lost interest in
them. Then they were dismissed, replaced. In his compounds, Wallen removed the
breeders and introduced new males about every three years, the time it took for
their charms to wane, for the frequency of their copulations — almost always
female-initiated — to fade.
This sounds like a society
that us submissive guys, and you Domme ladies, might relate to, doesn’t it?
And when the subject turns
to what happens after the lady of the house gets her first round of fucking for
the day, well, that just primes her for more – even if that first partner is
now rolling over for a snooze:
Her fulfillment was short-lived. Within minutes, she was hounding him
again. At other moments, she might have moved on to the other male. “She has
sex,” Wallen said, about rhesus females on the whole, “and when he goes into
his post-ejaculatory snooze, what does she do? She immediately gets up and goes
off and finds another.”
Sounds like just another day
over at All Mine, doesn’t it? I mean, just because one guy is now zoned out,
doesn’t mean the lady of the castle needs to go back to her knitting, does it?
So does this research mean
that every housewife is an inner Domme?
Tracking the action of the compound, he asked himself, as he had so
many times, whether any of this applies to humans and whether “because of
social conventions and imperatives, women frequently don’t act on or even
recognize the intensity of motivation that monkeys obey.” His decades of study
spanned the human as well as the rhesus realm. He answered, “I feel confident
that this is true.”
He didn’t mean to imply perfect correspondence between Deidrah and the
average woman. There was too much complexity for that sort of equation. Like
lots of current research on human and animal sexuality, Wallen’s work with our
close ancestors calls into question conventional assumptions, among them that
women have innately lower and less raw sex drives than men, and that while men
have been programmed by evolution to spread their cheap seed, to be
promiscuous, women, relatively speaking, are genetically compelled to seek out
one good man and are at least somewhat well suited to monogamy.
Such notions may be soothing for society — that half the population is
somehow biologically designed to serve the interests of stability. But
scientists studying female sexuality — from the lusts of Deidrah and other
monkeys to the desires of human women, measured in laboratory tests of genital
blood flow and explored in longitudinal research covering decades in women’s
lives — are starting to suggest that maybe we haven’t allowed ourselves much
knowledge about what women want.
