Spanking?

An anonymous reader left a comment yesterday and asked a question.  And since the "reply" function doesn't seem to be working as it should, I suppose this is the best way to respond. So consider this a follow up answer to a follow up question.

The comment came from a Dominant wife who said that she and her husband have been fantasizing about the possibility of her hypothetical Bull / Dom administering a bare bottom spanking to her hubby.  She wanted to know if we've talked about this in the Collins household.

Quite frankly, it's not something that's come up. I guess we still are focused on achieving Cuckold Level I.  Being spanked my Mistress's lover sounds like a post-grad course taken in Cuckold Level II. 

But it did open up some thoughts on what might be part of  the escalating humiliation of the cuckold husband in an evolving relationship involving a wife's dominant Bull lover.  

We've discussed or fantasized about:

• Mistress "pegging" her slave as her lover observes and eggs her on.
• Mistress using her riding crop on slave as her lover observes.
• Mistress being required to turn the key of slave's cock cage over to her lover.
• Mistress taking her lover's direction on when and how she can have sexual relations with her slave / husband.
• Mistress also being required to wear some sort of chastity device.

Obviously, these are variations on the cuckold theme that could be added on to the menu as a relationship escalates. 

As always, thanks for your comments and questions!

Q. and A. for Molly and mick (follow-up):

Hope you enjoyed our initial round of Q. and A.  I know Mistress was happy that her slave prepared some early morning reading for her. It provides something to accompany that initial wave of wake-up worship that (if done satisfactorily) leads to some wake-up gratification for her slave.  But our initial answers  generated some "follow up" questions. Unlike Sarah Hucka-Sans,  or her boss, we always indulge follow up questions!

Q. That part-time Dom want ad could have been written for a single woman.  There's no mention of a husband, let alone a husband. Are you looking for (a) a Dom lover for Molly, or (b) a Bull / Dom who will both control her and take an active role in the cuckold dimension of your relationship?

Interesting observation, dear reader. That want ad was written in the early stages of the blog, when Mistress and slave first began exploring what all this meant.  The contract we signed  came from a form found on the internet, with major revisions by us after some "negotiating". It allowed Mistress to take lovers, and we discovered that the concept gave us both a visceral thrill. But I don't think either of us had thought through the additional dimension of "cuckolding" at the time.

Before answering your question, Mistress and slave have spent some time (in and out of bed) discussing how best to respond.

At this point,  I think either (a) or (b) would appeal to Mistress. It's fair to say that Mistress would enjoy developing a relationship with either a Dominant lover who was just neutral on the Cuckold aspect of engaging with a married woman, or a Bull / Dom (as you describe it) who would exercise increasing control over her, and, as part of that control, exercise control over her slave / husband. But I think both of us would see (b) as the preferred situation.

Out contract has a clause that allows Mistress to essentially "assign" various rights to another person, male or female. So whether you look at Mistress's rights to dominate her slave as "assignable", or look at it from the point of view of a dominant lover becoming her Master, including  the right to her "property". either way, her dominant lover would have inherent powers over her husband as well.

That's getting a little too legalistic, isn't it?

Let's just say that both of us think that the concept of a Dominant lover who took more control over Mistress and her slave is compelling.  It's sort of the "holy grail" of the cuckold relationship, but easier to talk or fantasize about than actually accomplish.  As Mistress put it when we reflected on one encounter more than a year ago where slave was required to provide a service to one of her lover's that I had never performed before, "I did like the idea of him humiliating you in that way slave. It was very hot."

Q. Please tell me from both Molly and mick's perspective your ideal scenario's with a  Bull / Dom who "get's it" and is very comfortable with the cuckold dynamic?  What would the ideal scene entail?

Let's start by noting that furtive imaginings can come crashing down when confronted with the complications of a real life experience. Actually engaging in these types of scenarios requires a level of comfort and attraction for Molly that can take a while to achieve, and is hardly guaranteed.  That said, we've discussed this some, both in and out of the "throws of passion".  Here are some things that would be appealing to both of us.

• An evening at home might begin with slave in his cage, required to display it for her lover's amusement, and slave's humiliation. Maybe Mistress's lover would take possession of the key to his cage on these occasions, to remind all who is in charge.
• Slave might be required to prepare  and serve dinner while Molly and her lover relax in our living room, enjoying some wine. Kissing, fondling optional. Molly might even be required to give her lover as blow job as slave observes.
• Handcuffs, collars, or other emblems of submission might be worn by Molly or slave at various stages of the evening. States and manner of dress (or undress) could also be dictated.
• Slave might be required to "prime the pump" by performing fluffing duties for Mistress and / or her lover.
• Molly likes the idea of being "taken" while her slave is forced to watch, preferably bound and unable to interfere as she is ravaged and brought to orgasm.  
• Molly also likes the idea of being comfortably bound and teased to orgasm. Begging optional.
• Spankings for defiant or mischievous attitudes or behavior would be a welcome part of her lover's effort to "tame" her and win her submission.
• slave might be sent to an adjoining bedroom, forced to listen to his wife and her lover as they enjoy one another's company until morning. Of course, slave would be available to serve coffee on demand. or Breakfast in bed. 
• There might be occasions when Molly and her lover spend the night alone somewhere, and Molly later describes their encounters in explicit detail.
• As the relationship progressed,, and Mistress's lover took on  more control of the relationship, he might establish rules for Mistress and slave's sexual encounters, including frequency, forms of intercourse, and slave's chastity. 

Obviously, these are just some possible scenarios. Presumably any Bull / Dom lover would bring many of his own "perverse" ideas to the table that would earn even deeper submission from both Molly and her slave.

Hope this answers your questions.

Q. and A. for Molly and mick

Yes, we confess. It's been a little vanilla this winter in the Collins household, compared to years past. Mistress has a no active lover to distract her, which has left Mick without a whole lot to write about. We still have out almost every day "wake up" sex going, which puts us ahead of most married couples these days, regardless of age or demographic group.

And that's not counting the regular worship in the afternoon, and/or those extra digitally induced orgasms Mistress acquires while we lounge on our couch in the evening watching the latest on Netflix, or maybe episodes of "Victoria". Heck, it's clear we have more sex than Vic and Albert did, and they had all those kids! But I suspect our readers don't really want a "sex blog" that focuses on our everyday sexual routines, let alone TV reviews.

But when we get questions.....  that gets slave to fire-up the keyboard  and break this blogging draught  So here goes:

Q. Are you still switching for 2 hours every Sunday?  If so would either of you like to reduce or increase that frequency?

We still "celebrate" switch day, which was called for in our original contract, but rarely for as much as two hours.  Switch Day activities typically involve slave "torturing" Mistress with her Magic Wand vibrator, culminating in Mistress "begging" her slave for permission to cum. After this ritual, Slave is entitled to "have his way" with Mistress.  Always gratifying.  This usually happens after lounging in bed for a while with the morning papers (yes, we still get the Times and the local rag delivered to our door, a throw back to an earlier age.... supplemented by the Washington Post on the web.). After our sexual rituals, there's usually time for a bike ride, then a late breakfast, with Mistress cooking her highly stylized scrambled eggs. (Slave does the cooking the rest of the week).  So that's what "switch day" has evolved to.  It's a very satisfying ritual. and at least from Mick's POV, there's no need to extend it to other days of the week, or additional hours.

In the past, there might have been a little bondage during the big Magic Wand tease, or some cropping.  Older entries here would reveal that history.

Mistress says she has no need to add to our supplement our switch day activities. (Heck, she gets off pretty easy, doesn't she?)  But maybe our readers (or this questioner) would like to make some suggestions to "spice things up".  Consider the comments section our "suggestion box".

Q. In what way does mick express his subjugation to and admiration of  Molly? In what way would either of you like to see that change?

Here are a few ways in which mick tries to express his subjugation and admiration:

• Daily orgasm inducing worship.
• Asking for permission to cum when we have conventional sex.
• Admiring facebook posts referring to the "lovely Molly" on our vanilla facebook pages.
• Willingly submit to her occasional use of the riding crop to remind me "who's boss" and / or as consequences for a  faux pas. 
• Willingly submit to the occasional "pegging", another reminder of "who's boss."
• Wearing a cock cage when Mistress is meeting a lover, or has some special concern about who I might be encountering during the course of my day.

I suspect Mistress would like her slave to wear that cage more frequently, but relents when I whine about how uncomfortable it can be, particularly on a cold day, when my "junk" gets all tight and wants to hide from the low temperatures. 

Mistress adds that she should probably be wielding the crop and ass fuck me more!

Q. How would you describe your ideal Bull Dom relationship?

While Mistress has had several lovers since we embarked down the cuckold path some years ago, it's fair to say none of them have been of the "Bull Dom" type.  Most have been her age or younger, and there have been several "one offs" ( for various reasons such as bad chemistry or freak outs), and others that lasted months or even years. But none really got the concept of cuckolding in the sense of dominating the wife and / or the subtle or unsubtle humiliation of the cuck.  Most either didn't get why some married guy would let someone else have access to h is hot wife, or simply saw me as a peer who shared at least one thing in common. 

Our whole fascination with the cuckold concept arose from some interactions Mistress had with an old college beau who found her on facebook.  There was talk of spankings and bondage between them that got both of our motors running. But nothing came of it. When that guy "ghosted" after Molly said "put up or shut up", I wrote a "want add" for a "Part Time Dom" that would describe a fantasy relationship. Here's the link:

Want Ad for Part Time Dom

Of course, this description is fantastical.  The tricky part in any relationship (cuck or vanilla) is discovering mental and physical chemistry that can lead who knows where. Mistress is a busy girl who, in the real world,  would not have the time and energy for all that communication and engagement described in the "ad".  But the concept is hot, isn't it?  

At the least, a "Bull Dom" relationship would require someone who can establish that mental and physical chemistry with Mistress, and then use his own imagination, skills and powers of persuasion to convince her to surrender to her more submissive impulses. For slave's part, I would certainly enjoy witnessing it happen. But it could be quite a challenge, which may explain why that mythical "Bull Dom" we have sought has never materialized.  But a Hot wife and her submissive hubby can dream, can't they?

Hope this answers your questions, dear reader!

House Showing

Miss us?

We've been laying low here in the cold, damp River City winter. After about 3 weeks at our SW hideaway for the holidays, work obligations forced us back here for fun times with polar vortexes and, now, endless gloom and rain. Yuck.

Which may explain why our old house here is on the market. Mistress and her slave are hoping to shift our base of operations out west in the year to come, and getting rid of an 120 yr. old home here is the first step.

But why would readers of our blog about male submission and cuckolding care about a home sale?

Let me explain.

We've been on a bit of a cold spell when it comes to finding Mistress a "side dish".  We gave up on OK Cupid a while ago, after a long spell of less then compelling suitors. Mistress did have lunch with her old stand by Jay last week, and it seems he is interested in resuming their "affair".  But Jay has a tendency to disappear on Mistress for no apparent reason, usually because he can't handle the notion of sharing her with her sub-hubby. Mistress is undecided on whether to reopen that door.

So fast forward to Sunday afternoon.  Mistress and slave were lolling in bed with the Times, after a brisk morning bike ride in sub-freezing temps and flurrying snow.

Our front bell rang. Slave still had his pants on, so I was the one who trundled down the stairs to open the door.

Outside, in accumulating snow was a tall,  slender fellow.  He introduced himself as a tenant in the large house next door, who saw our "for sale" sign, and wanted to arrange for a showing.  His name was Carlos and it turns out he teaches Spanish at the nearby University.

After consulting with Mistress, (who remained in bed), we arranged for Carlos to come by at 4 pm on Monday.  Mistress would show him the house.

When I arrived home from work on Monday afternoon, Mistress had some positive news..... and reviews.

"He seems very interested, slave.  Loved the house. Turns out he's recently divorced, and needs a larger place than his current apartment, so his teenaged daughters can sleep over from time to time....."

As Mistress went on it became apparent that the interest was mutual.

"He knows [a parent of one of our daughter's best friends], who teaches in the same department at the University.....I loved that accent....about my age, he's originally from the Basque region of Spain....."

"Did you tell him we've been there, Mistress?"

"Of course.  I also showed him where we hide the key in case he wants to come back and look again when we're out....."

Clearly, Mistress is the trusting type. At least for certain types of guys.

Ad she continued gushing.

"He's about my age..... what a shame we didn't meet him sooner.  He's definitely my type, slave.  About my age.  and kind of hot....."

"If only...."

"But I guess we can't do anything about it now, at least until we work out whether he wants to buy our house."

"I suppose so Mistress....I can give you his email, in case you want to arrange for a more intimate follow up  showing......"

"Hmmm...... I'm sure he'll want to come back for another look, slave....."

Apparently Mistress's bucket list includes a Latin Lover. Who knew?