Our Saturday Night Dinner Guest

Mistress and slave hosted her most recent "prospect" on Saturday evening, aka Super Bowl Eve. Ironically, S is a Minneapolis native, so it was easy to talk about the goings on in the great white north in advance of the big game, as well as local heroes Prince, Bob Dylan and Garrison (say it ain't so) Keilor.

The two of them had a lot in common: Trump antipathy, skiing (he was a ski racer in high school like our Western Correspondent), music, etc. As a result there were no awkward silences. He also seemed to like slave's cooking.

In advance Mistress and slave agreed on some protocols:

1) slave would be in his cage.
2) slave would not mention that he was in a cage. ("I don't think he's into that sort of thing, slave....."
3) I would not do any "hinting" about giving them private time, or abandon her with him without a clear signal from her.

Slave stuck to the plan, but did "abandon" the two of them a few times as I cooked and did the dishes.

S arrived on time at around 7 pm, and Mistress made clear at around 10 pm after we enjoyed dinner that it was time for her to go to bed (without him).

So what was the conclusion at the end of the night?

"He's a nice guy, slave....."

But.....

Well it's unclear now whether there is a "spark".  It's clear he is interested in spending more time with Mistress. He's a single dad, with a kid at home, who has no active girl friend / partner. But he's also very much Minnesota polite.

Example: Mistress sat on the couch as we sipped wine and had dinner. I sat on a side chair leaving plenty of room for him next to Mistress.  But he never took the bait, choosing another side chair.  He clearly does not get the cuckold dynamic.  The only physical contact I noticed was on his return from a trip to the WC he passed behind Mistress and briefly rubbed her shoulders. But even that stopped when Slave came up the stairs with a fresh beverage for him.

"You're going to have to make the first move, Mistress.... because he's going to wait for some very explicit signal that he has permission."

Maybe Mistress will even have to get all Domme with him, should she choose. But does she want another sub cluttering up the house?  I doubt it.

So what happens next?  Unsure.  He wants to get together with her again. No doubt he thinks it's time to engage her without her husband in tow. We will keep you posted.

In the meantime, slave is more than happy to continue fulfilling any of Mistress's sexual needs that  arise.

Date Night Means Cage Time.

Mistress and slave will be entertaining a new "prospect" tonight. We met S via OKCupid and then got together with him for drinks last Tuesday night. Anything for an excuse to avoid the State of the Union address, right?  He's a single dad who lives about 30 minutes from the UCTMW World HQ.  About 6 foot, with a runner's slender physique.  Age wise, he's about mid-way between Mistress and slave.

S is not exactly the "Bull" type.  More heartland polite. But we certainly had plenty to talk about during our two hours or so over drinks on Tuesday. The jury is still out on whether there is a sufficient "spark" that will generate some heat between S and Mistress.  But she determined it was worth getting to know him a little better.  I'll be cooking. They can be chatting over some wine.  We will keep our readers updated on how things develop.

As for me, Mistress laid out some clear directions.

"I think you should be in your cage tonight, slave..... it's been too long."

I guess I am in no position to disagree,

Cuckold In Chief?

Last week the Trump regime celebrated it's first anniversary. It also was struggling to control the growing scandal about the pay-off of a porn star who was tattling about her affair with the President-to-be while his wife Melania was caring for their new born. Reports were that Mrs. Trump was "blindsided" and pissed. She cancelled plans to join her husband on that junket to Davos, heading to Florida instead.

And when the time came to post on her Instagram account in the anniversary of the inauguration, she didn't show us a photo of her dancing with her super-sized husband. No.  Instead there was this photo of her with a hunky Marine more her own age. Though he had his hat on, I'm guessing he didn't have a combover or dye his hair orange.

We know that the President and his Slovenian wife maintain separate bedrooms. And she bided her time before actually moving into the White House, Was that because of the POTUS's habit of wolfing down burgers in bed, while gorging on FOX News sycophants? Or is it because she has a collection of real, vigorous men to keep her bed warm?

Let's hope that smile on her face reflects what is really going on behind closed doors in the White House residence.

When CNN Writes About Cuckolding, Does That Make it "Fake News"?

For those of us bitten by the "cuckolding bug", there is a certain validation when the mainstream media (MSM?) starts writing about it, and even endorsing it as a main stream kink (MSK?). But when CNN - POTUS's 'fake news" boogychannel - is doing that sort of reporting, what are we to think?

Last week CNN posted a story titled Cuckolding Can Be Positive for Some Couples, Study Finds. No doubt some heads exploded, maybe even in the White House.

The article was triggered by a study that focused on cuckolding again gay men, but includes what amounts to a green light for those of us enticed by the fantasy of our spouse in the arms of another.  In fact, the article, suggests that "acting on adulterous fantasies may strengthen a relationship, as counterintuitive as it may sound."

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·        Here are some highlights from this "breaking news" reporting from the President's least favorite "news" outlet:

(CNN)In our current political climate, the term "cuck" -- short for "cuckservative" -- has become an insult of the so-called alt-right, aimed at men they view as spineless and emasculated. The slur has its roots in the concept of cuckolding, or having an adulterous partner. 

But, according to a recent study by David Ley, Justin Lehmiller and the writer Dan Savage, acting on cuckolding fantasies can be a largely positive experience for many couples, and hardly a sign of weakness.

References to cuckolding appear in literature as early as the 13th century, usually in the form of male characters who fear that their child has been sired by another man during an act of infidelity. Today, however, cuckolding has become fetishized into a powerful sexual fantasy for some men, who get aroused by the idea of their romantic partner engaging in sexual activity with someone else. Women also share this fantasy, but less so than men. 

"This fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality," said Ley, whose book "Insatiable Wives" addresses cuckolding in heterosexual couples. "But we're hearing more and more about it these days, and more people are rejecting the social stigma against this fantasy."

Indeed, the numbers suggest that cuckolding, or at least thinking about it, is more common than you might imagine. For his forthcoming book, "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life," Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans and found that 58% of men and about a third of women had fantasized about cuckolding. 

Of course this raises a question: if women are also fantasizing about cuckolding, is the fantasy about their male partner having sex with another woman; or about them having sex with another guy, with the knowledge of their husband?  Now that's an issue for CNN to follow up on.

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The article also focuses on the root causes of the cuckold fantasy:

And the emotions surrounding seeing your partner with someone else can add to the turn-on, explained Savage. "It's not cuckolding if there isn't an element of humiliation, degradation or denial," he said. "Our erotic imaginations have the ability to turn shame lemons into delicious kink lemonade."

Of course, the article is not a total green light for married ladies to go in search of a lover to fulfill their husband's (or their own) cuckolding fantasies. It can be positive, but not for the faint of heart - or insecure:

As a sex therapist, one of the more intriguing findings from this study involves the impact of cuckolding on relationships. 

"Overall, our research found that for the most part, cuckolding tends to be a positive fantasy and behavior," said Ley. "It doesn't appear to be evidence of disturbance, of an unhealthy relationship, or of disregard for one's partner." But there's an important caveat, added Lehmiller. "We found several personality factors that predict more positive experiences acting on cuckolding fantasies. For those who have a lot of relationship anxiety or abandonment issues, who lack intimacy and communication, and who aren't careful, detail-oriented planners, acting on a consensual non-monogamy fantasy could very well be a negative experience," he said. "In other words, not everyone who has a cuckolding fantasy should think about acting on it."

One has to wonder whether the cuckolding fantasy has taken root in the "residence" at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. Could it be that Melania actually gets off on those stories about her husband paying off porn stars?  Or, on the other hand, did Melania pass on that trip to Davos so she had some privacy to cavort with her tennis instructor at Mara Lago? 

Maybe CNN can turn their investigative reporters loose on that story line.