Ideas For A Reader Looking to Scratch a "Femdom" Itch.

Mistress and slave made it safely home from our 5 day work/leisure getaway late yesterday afternoon, with some time left for a nice bike ride before dinner.

Our weekend went as (un)planned. The weather was  grey and cold on Saturday, giving us an excuse to “shelter in place” in our rustic room after a long walk to and from breakfast. Another “two-a-day” was part of our plan, and Mistress punctuated our afternoon session with some vigorous cock riding.

Sunday dawned with some bright sunshine. And though it was still unseasonably cold out we took a long walk on the beach after some cozy wake-up sex. 

All in all, our getaway was a nice chance to spend some time together before heading into a few challenging weeks of work and family duties.

When we arrived home we noticed some hefty comments to Saturday morning’s blog. Our anonymous blog historian presented an  interesting perspective on Mistress and slave’s style of communicating. And “Lapsed Catholic” responded in detail to my question about whether her husband was clued in on her own AM fueled couplings:

Thank you so much for the wonderful responses. No my husband is not aware, I tried to spice up the sex life before joining AM but alas no joy, he would not even entertain a vibrator. I have tried to swing our lives around and am slowly dripping information to him re a cuckold lifestyle. However this has to be done gently. I like the idea of denying him sex and using it as a "reward" basis. I am going to introduce a chastity device as a method of introducing the whole subject but am working the best way to do this. He is very traditional! A true British gentleman so it is taking some planning. I think he perceives me as this quiet gentle mother, fortunately Ashley Madison has provided the sex so sorely needed. Fortunately he does know I have a humour so therefore that is my "gateway" to starting the ball rolling. Oh and a fettish for boots he has! I hope you had a wonderful exploration of a weekend.

All of this might be fuel for our own readers’ imaginations and ideas.  How do you introduce an unsuspecting husband to the “benefits” of a chastity device?  And when a wife has an unfulfilled appetite  for some Femdom adventures, what do you do with a clue less husband?

It seems that the more typical situation is where the husband has an inner submissive  nagging to come out, and is searching for a way to get his wife to tag along. Surely there may be some ideas out for LC as she schemes to release her inner Domme.  Any ideas, dear readers?

My own thought ties to LC’s comments that her “British gentleman” husband has a bit of a boot fetish.  Now there’s something to start with.  LC, maybe you should start posing around the house in a get-up like the one on the left. If you get him started focused on the boots, he might start enjoying the accessories too!

Answering Reader Questions

Mistress and slave learned yesterday morning that a family event we were obligated to attend on Sunday afternoon was cancelled. And while we weren't celebrating the cancellation, we were fully prepared to take advantage of the sudden open spot on our calendar. The decision was quickly made to adjourn our little junket to Chicago to a quaint little lake front lodge we enjoy on the opposite side of  the Windy City's lakefront.  The fact that the Innkeeper is still offering a "2 for 1" night off-season rate made sticking around until Sunday all the more attractive.

So rather than the posh king sized bed and lake view we enjoyed on Wednesday and Thursday nights, we are now hunkered down in a more rustic but equally cozy king sized bed with a forest view. We arrived in time for a long walk on the deserted beach, some dinner at a local ethnic restaurant, and, of course, a couple of rounds of worship for Mistress. T he sound of the Lake surf and a pop up rain storm gently soothed us to sleep last night.

We plan some bike riding and reading and a very restful day today....and at least two rounds of sex!

But today's edition is not simply a travelogue. Our reader Lapsed Catholic (Author of the "Lapsed Catholic Wife" blog had some questions I wanted to answer:

"Do you wear a chastity device to work? What is the longest time you have been denied sex as well? I am curious. I want my husband to worship me."


LC, thanks for the question, and your interest in the blog. I checked out your blog which I have listed on our UCTMW "blog role". It sounds like you've been making good use of your Ashley Madison subscription. Mistress met some interesting folks using AM a few years back - she encountered some losers and a handful of  keepers, including her current side dish Jay.

In response to your question, I do wear my chastity cage to work on occasion, based on Mistress's desires, though not as often as some  heckling readers (like Terri) would prefer. Mistress cuts me a lot of slack, and allows me to "hang loose" when I ride my bike, or have business appointments where a metal detector might come into play. More typically, she makes me wear the cage if she is seeing another lover, or if I am going to a social occasion solo which might involve potentially attractive members of the opposite sex.

Since she likes to have her cock available on command, she does not make me wear the cage when we are together, such as while we are on this current "business" trip. An exception might be when we go to dinner with one of her lovers, or one of them visits the house, and my own appendage is not her primary source of pleasure for the evening.

How long have I gone with sustained abstinence?  This is another sore point with some of our readers. I can't think of any situations on the recent past when more than 2-3 days have gone by without a good cum. Though Mistress and I travel solo on occasion, business trips are short. If we are away longer then Mistress usually lifts her "no touch" rule and requires me to engage in a little "self abuse". Her philosophy seems to be that she does not want a horny slave on the loose without her direct supervision.

In terms of how to arrange for your husband to worship you, I can't be of much help. We all come to these arrangements in our own circuitous ways. Every marriage is a mystery to outsiders, and more often than not to insiders. Maybe our readers have some clues they can share?

I tend to think that the carrot and stick method works best, but I don't know what makes your husband tick.

Hope you continue to enjoy the blog. I've enjoyed reading about your exploits, including your culinary exploits whilst enjoying the company of your lovers. One question: is your husband aware of your escapades, or so far are they a secret? If a secret, you never know whether he might got off on the whole "cuckold" thrill. Not many of us do, but it can be a very potent accellerant for your domestic sex life.

Catching Up For Lost Time

Though Mistress was away last weekend, our little junket to the Windy City has allowed us to make up for the sad vacuum  her absence created in her slave's life.

We've spent some time walking around the City, fine dining and riding the L... the new Millenium Park has some features I hadn't noticed before, including this odd fountain that may spark some dark cuckold fantasies for some of you out there:
I will leave that one to speak for itself.

In addition, rest assured we have fully exploited the king sized bed in our lake view room with some vigorous "two a day" action that might well be prohibited by the current NFL Players' Association collective bargaining agreement. There has been some cock riding, and lots of worship. Sadly, I had to leave Mistress in bed looking quite fetching this morning to attend some work meetings:


Luckily, our weekend is just beginning, to adjourn to a quaint lakefront Inn on the other side of the lake from our current location. By the time the dust (or sand) settles, we should have more than made up for our lost Mother's Day weekend.

Road Trip

Mistress arrived home safely Monday night after her brief European hiatus with our daughter. It was strange not being able to properly pay tribute to her on Mother's Day, but at least she got to spend some solo time with her youngest daughter, he is so far away.

Her plane was delayed Monday night, and she was pretty exhausted after that long trip back. The only benefit of her delay was that I was done with a business meeting in time to pick her up myself. It would have been pathetic to make my Mistress take uber home from the airport when that's what slaves are for, isn't it?

Rest assured that despite her long trip home she was willing to allow me to show my devotion with avid lips and tongue. She had been on a longer abstinence streak than her slave, after all, so no doubt was in need of some sexual release.

It wasn't until yesterday morning that slave was allowed to enjoy the full sexual benefits of her return. After a good night's sleep Mistress was fully invigorated, and rode her slave's cock to a rather robust cum before allowing me to enjoy the full fruits of having her back in our bed.

But we won't be in that bed for long.

This morning we embark on a road trip to the Windy City for a few nights. Slave will be attending some meetings. Mistress is coming along for the ride.

We will update you on our travels, as we enjoy a few evenings of hotel room sex!