The
lopsided Seahawks victory had me wondering if in true Jersey tradition, the
lads from Denver were advised by one of Chris Christie’s high school chums just
before game time that it “was not their night”, the way Marlon Brando got the news from his older brother,
played by Rod Stieger in “On the Waterfront”.
But
then I saw this request for advice in the Washington Post yesterday that was
right up our alley, and figured the writer needed a little more common sense
than “Dear Prudence” had in her limited range of experience:
Paternity
My wife and I have a
female-led relationship. Before we got married, I agreed that she could
"take other lovers", while I would remain faithful to her alone. She
said that she might not ever see anyone else, but she liked that I knew she
*could*. Well, now she's pregnant, and I'm wondering the obvious. We do have
intercourse, but not often. She was away on business near the time she would
have conceived. I don't know whether she's ever had another lover. I could have
asked that before, but now I'm afraid of how it would come across. Should I
ask, or just wait to see if the baby looks like me?
- –
February
03, 2014 7:02 AM
A.
Emily Yoffe :
Thank you for informing me of the phrase "female-led relationship." From reading the
definition, I see that it doesn't necessarily mean that the wife take lovers
while the husband is home making soup. It just means she is in charge. (Hear
that, Darling, it's not me being intolerably bossy, it's a lifestyle!) In
an earlier day, writer John Mortimer delightfully appropriated the term, She
Who Must Be Obeyed, to describe this sort of relationship in Rumpole of the Bailey. But just because you
agreed your wife would set the terms of both her behavior and yours
doesn't mean you are not now entitled to rethink things. If you say you want to
talk about the pregnancy and the child's possible paternity and she orders you
into the dungeon, then you two are suffering from a failure to communicate. One
of the basics of embarking on parenthood is knowing how the event came to
be. If you're afraid to ask, then you need to rethink what it means to
raise a child together not as equal partners. I assume you don't want
your offspring to think of dad as a timid, quivering wreck. If you don't have
the guts to discuss this up with your wife, then maybe you can pass her a note
saying you'd like the engage the services of a marriage counselor so that you
have a safe place to talk to her.
– February 03, 2014 12:07 PM
Here is what Molly and Mick would say to this confused sap and
his Domme:
Those
of us in “female led relationships” certainly subscribe to the notion that the
wife has every right to play the field when on a business trip, or even when
hubby is simonizing the floors in the den. It’s been in Mick’s contract from
the very beginning, and Molly has oft exercised that privilege for more than a
few cums from a variety of macho
lovers.
But
the particular thrill of the
cuckold relationship is in giving a full after action read out to the humbled
cuckold who’s imagination has been forced to run wild while his wife is running
free. For Mick it allows his
competitive juices to flow as he seeks to please Mistress as best he can when
she returns to the marital bed, none the worse for wear (though sometimes a
little stiff and sore depending on the physical dexterity and vigor of her alternative lover).
And
Molly seems to relish the opportunity to tease Slave with her upcoming evening
(or afternoon) plans, sometimes making sure he is locked in the cage and not
tempted to violate that “no touch” rule. She is not burdened with the hassle of
sneaking about or covering her tracks.
Heck,
it works for us, and our sense is that we are part of a growing trend who use
these dynamics to keep their marriage hot and fresh.
So
we can’t understand why a wife with “privileges” would fail to tell her husband
all the juicy details …. Or at least some of the hot highlights if she has
found a fetching side dish while at an otherwise dreary business trip.
So
what does a confused might be cuck do when confronted with a pregnant wife:
being a Dad is no easy chore, and in a female led household, you are likely to
do much more than 50% of the diaper changing, laundry, middle of the night
feeding, and (later) soccer practice driving. There’s no reason why you can’t
have a satisfying parental role and bond whether or not your chromosomes are in
the mix. But if it’s something that is going to stick in your craw, best to
politely ask the question that is top of mind now and clear the air.
And
consider reminding her that she has no reason to conceal her future “free
ranging” because if anything full disclosure might make things even hotter
around the homestead.
Molly
and mick
