Mistress and slave have a busy evening
of cuckolding planned…. Her lover Jay is joining us for a 3 way “dinner date”.
And then….. well I have a feeling slave will be relegated to our daughter’s
room for one more cuckold sleepover before we head back to our SW hideaway next
week. Look here on Sunday or Monday for more details on how the evening goes.
But today’s edition will re-visit what
we do here occasionally – provide some alternative advice to advice seeking
readers of that “fake news” mainstream media we’ve heard to much about
lately. Here’s the Mainstream
advice on a subject close to the heart of all of you with a cuckolding kink…..
Q: Flirting in a
relationship
You mentioned in today's column
that some couples are OK with outside flirting and some are not. My question
is, how do you decide how far it's OK to go? Do you just ask your spouse,
"How much flirting am I allowed to do?" Or do you feel it out with
trial and error, which risks someone's feelings getting hurt? Or what?
A: Carolyn Hax
I think it's a bigger understanding
on a bigger scale. It's not ... okay, i can flirt to here, but not past here.
It's: What is your view of sexuality, or commitment, of intimacy, of the notion
of having a private self independent of all others. Some people are so
uncomfortable with the idea of their partners as sexual beings independent of
their relationship with them that they can't even stomach the idea of past
partners. Like, obsessing and being haunted by unwelcome mental images. Some
are at the other end of the spectrum and want to share their partners with
other people. In between are varying degrees of comfort with emotional, sexual
and general autonomy of the individuals within a couple. It's one of those
areas where it takes time to get to know yourself, much less another
person.
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FEB 24, 2017 12:17 EST
Here’s
how Molly and mick would respond to the same question.
Dear
Flirt Wannabe:
So
you want to know how to best establish any limits on your right as a spouse to
flirt with a guy (or for that matter a babe) throwing off sparks of
attraction? You don’t want to risk
a trial and error approach. What happens if your husband suddenly gets all
hinky when he stumbles upon those
smoking hot texts or emails to
that guy at work describing
how you woke up all sweaty and
needy after dreaming you were
sucking his giant, throbbing cock.
It’s
so much safer to agree in advance
on your rights as a spouse to seek and find some supplemental attention –
whether it’s flirtatious chit chat over morning coffee, or a good hard fucking
in your mini-van while the kids are at soccer practice.
We
suggest putting it down in writing. Maybe a kink infused contract? Here’s what our contract says on the
subject:
Mistress has the
right to engage in other relationships with men or women, of whatever nature,
without obtaining additional consent from the Slave. Such relationships may
include “vanilla” relationships, her taking or training of additional slaves,
or her submission to other men or women.
Of
course, not every husband may respond positively to a wife’s request for a
contractual right to enjoy the occasional benefits of a alpha side-dish. But if you put a comprehensive agreement
in front of your spouse, and gently explain that he can’t fairly expect you to
spend the rest of your life limited to his underwhelming sexual efforts and
undersized “equipment”, you may be surprised by his response.
It might
be relief. For some sexually voracious women, and you may be one of them, “it
takes a village”. Some husbands feel they can’t do a very good job of
replicating the efforts of an entire village!
Who
knows? The thought of his wife out there on the prowl, always on the look out
for a guy who might get her motor running, or do a better (or more interesting)
job of filling her orifices, might actually be a huge turn on for him.
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You won’t
know if you don’t give it a flirtatious whirl.
